What was this project?
In this project we learned about socialization and how it shapes us by our values and beliefs. How we are taught to be how we are as of today. By the people we are surrounded by and the things we see. Our mask show the mask we put on in daily society to show how we have been shaped.
Reflection
1. In this project I grew as a writer by applying evidence to my work and backing it up. I have had multiple projects where evidence was key, but this project was when I really got a grasp of using it. We had to use evidence in our every part of our work and the most in our essays. It was when we were doing our essays I saw how helpful and easy it was to use evidence in your work. It makes your point stronger and more believable.
2. My biggest takeaway from this project was how stereotypes can be unconsciously taught.We are unaware that we are placing children into certain groups. How girls play with pink toys, dolls, and make-up. While boys play with Legos, blue and black toys. Now that I have been part of this project it’s become so obvious to me that we are doing that. Multiple things have become obvious to me when I would have been oblivious to it before.
3. As a project worker I have grown as becoming more of a group pusher rather than being the one who is always being told what to do, this time I was the leader in a way. Most the time when I’m in a group I allow other people to take lead. But this time I was the one who was the “leader” and kicked off some of our first ideas. Maybe now in future projects I could take lead or I could let someone else depending on how much the others would like to be the leader. But now for sure I’m not as scared of becoming the leader.
4. My role as a group member was the leader and ensuring that the ideas we had could be possible and we would follow through with them. It was difficult to make sure everyone had something to do because at parts of the planning process in the beginning there would be small things to do and then eventually as we moved through the planning process more task showed up. One thing I would change in this project if I had the chance would be the group member choices. Yes, it was based around what we had chosen we wanted to do but maybe it would have been better to have a pre-chosen leader (students choice if they wanted to be) for each category and then students would choose which group to be in.
2. My biggest takeaway from this project was how stereotypes can be unconsciously taught.We are unaware that we are placing children into certain groups. How girls play with pink toys, dolls, and make-up. While boys play with Legos, blue and black toys. Now that I have been part of this project it’s become so obvious to me that we are doing that. Multiple things have become obvious to me when I would have been oblivious to it before.
3. As a project worker I have grown as becoming more of a group pusher rather than being the one who is always being told what to do, this time I was the leader in a way. Most the time when I’m in a group I allow other people to take lead. But this time I was the one who was the “leader” and kicked off some of our first ideas. Maybe now in future projects I could take lead or I could let someone else depending on how much the others would like to be the leader. But now for sure I’m not as scared of becoming the leader.
4. My role as a group member was the leader and ensuring that the ideas we had could be possible and we would follow through with them. It was difficult to make sure everyone had something to do because at parts of the planning process in the beginning there would be small things to do and then eventually as we moved through the planning process more task showed up. One thing I would change in this project if I had the chance would be the group member choices. Yes, it was based around what we had chosen we wanted to do but maybe it would have been better to have a pre-chosen leader (students choice if they wanted to be) for each category and then students would choose which group to be in.
My Essay
Darby Voorhees
Class: Section 1
Who Am I to You?
From the article The Cycle Of Socialization by Bobbie Harro, there are two types of groups in this world, Agents and Targets. These two groups are only a factor of the cycle of socialization. The “norms” we are taught, and how we should act. Yet all human beings fit into one group or the other. Agent groups normally consist of white people, males, and upper class / upper middle class. Target groups are women, LGBTQ, people of color, and people in poverty. Harro also states, “We are unlucky to be born into target groups and therefore devalued by existing society. Both groups are dehumanized by being socialized into prescribed roles without consciousness or permission.”. Dehumanized; when one is dehumanized it is the act of depriving a person or group of positive human qualities. From the quote and definition above, they relate to how I have been socialized by how I was born into a Target group, so I was then dehumanized with the fact of believing I was just as strong as other men. So when people are put into to different or certain groups they become dehumanized, I have been socialized to know what group I fit into, and how to act as a woman or a girl. Even when I was young I was still aware of a “normal” girl, because the image of how I should be was and still is being shoved in my face. Being a woman I am forced to believe I must be perfect, and act as if there is nothing wrong with that.
Everyone seeks being unique, to being their own self. But they also seek the need to fit in. This is a complex topic about how women are supposed to be the normal but also have their own unique qualities. Most of the time these two qualities don’t mix well together. So I try to find out who I am while putting certain puzzle pieces that only fit in a special way. But sadly only a few puzzle pieces of who I truly am rarely fit with the average pieces. How unfortunate I am to worry about trying to fit in and be like everybody else, just so we are not alone.
I have been social to think I must be perfect, always try to look my best and not allow people to see the bad sides of me. The images of how I “should” be surround me all over the media. Causing me to live in a tight corner. It’s everywhere in magazines, TV, commercials and ads.. In the video A Girl Like Me, Jennifer says, “At a young age I already knew the the standards for a girl like me”. It’s so surprising and almost embarrassing that a young girl already knew how she had to act, how she had to be. And she most likely got these ideas from the Media. In the media I always see, a skinny, busty, and beautiful girl. This has even impacted me and my identity, mainly by my appearance. Media is basically telling me that I should be like this woman that I saw. That is the image that women are shown of how they should be. When that’s not the basic girl that you would see out on the street. In cleaning advertisement most of the time it’s directed to women cleaning and being sold to them.
At some point I have to ask, when does it become too much? When will I finally get out of this corner? Is it when I’ve change and hid my true self? Or is it when I push back? There are side effects from the media that affects women. People body shame, and others become anorexic. We create a looking- glass self. “Cooley's concept of the looking glass self, states that a person’s self grows out of a person's social interactions with others. The view of ourselves comes from the contemplation of personal qualities and impressions of how others perceive us. Actually, how we see ourselves does not come from who we really are, but rather from how we believe others see us” -Joachim Vogt Isaksen. The messages above have shaped me, but it is my peers that have made this message, which then shapes my identity. I put myself into to specific categories. I start to hide myself, I hide my embarrassing personality traits, or I try to suck in my gut. All because of this message. When does it become too much when we push back and don’t follow these “norms”? If I cut our hair short, not have the same default orientation, wear clothes made for men. Or if I were to protest asking for the same privileges and to end the wage gap.
I don’t want to live in this corner anymore. No one does. This tight corner we live in, that we call life should be called oppression and socialization. It’s time to break down these walls and live in a life with no corners to hide in, but rather doors to be ourselves and have new beginnings. All of these stereotypes and issues could be solved in the simplest ways. All of these corners could be brought down. We humans love to over complicate and over exaggerate things when there is no reason to. All we would have to do is stop pushing all of these stereotypes in the faces of women; it’s not only for women, it’s also for men with the Man Box, it’s also with children, and other people with different races and cultures. If we would let people be themselves and let them do things equally. To accept being different as a human. Instead of trying to make people in our society mix in qualities of who they are and who they should be. Then we would live in a perfect world, but unfortunately we don’t. The only way we can change the world is by changing our ways. Is it possible for us to change our ways, to be accepting and no longer see people in a negative way that are different from us? I believe it is, it’s very possible.
Class: Section 1
Who Am I to You?
From the article The Cycle Of Socialization by Bobbie Harro, there are two types of groups in this world, Agents and Targets. These two groups are only a factor of the cycle of socialization. The “norms” we are taught, and how we should act. Yet all human beings fit into one group or the other. Agent groups normally consist of white people, males, and upper class / upper middle class. Target groups are women, LGBTQ, people of color, and people in poverty. Harro also states, “We are unlucky to be born into target groups and therefore devalued by existing society. Both groups are dehumanized by being socialized into prescribed roles without consciousness or permission.”. Dehumanized; when one is dehumanized it is the act of depriving a person or group of positive human qualities. From the quote and definition above, they relate to how I have been socialized by how I was born into a Target group, so I was then dehumanized with the fact of believing I was just as strong as other men. So when people are put into to different or certain groups they become dehumanized, I have been socialized to know what group I fit into, and how to act as a woman or a girl. Even when I was young I was still aware of a “normal” girl, because the image of how I should be was and still is being shoved in my face. Being a woman I am forced to believe I must be perfect, and act as if there is nothing wrong with that.
Everyone seeks being unique, to being their own self. But they also seek the need to fit in. This is a complex topic about how women are supposed to be the normal but also have their own unique qualities. Most of the time these two qualities don’t mix well together. So I try to find out who I am while putting certain puzzle pieces that only fit in a special way. But sadly only a few puzzle pieces of who I truly am rarely fit with the average pieces. How unfortunate I am to worry about trying to fit in and be like everybody else, just so we are not alone.
I have been social to think I must be perfect, always try to look my best and not allow people to see the bad sides of me. The images of how I “should” be surround me all over the media. Causing me to live in a tight corner. It’s everywhere in magazines, TV, commercials and ads.. In the video A Girl Like Me, Jennifer says, “At a young age I already knew the the standards for a girl like me”. It’s so surprising and almost embarrassing that a young girl already knew how she had to act, how she had to be. And she most likely got these ideas from the Media. In the media I always see, a skinny, busty, and beautiful girl. This has even impacted me and my identity, mainly by my appearance. Media is basically telling me that I should be like this woman that I saw. That is the image that women are shown of how they should be. When that’s not the basic girl that you would see out on the street. In cleaning advertisement most of the time it’s directed to women cleaning and being sold to them.
At some point I have to ask, when does it become too much? When will I finally get out of this corner? Is it when I’ve change and hid my true self? Or is it when I push back? There are side effects from the media that affects women. People body shame, and others become anorexic. We create a looking- glass self. “Cooley's concept of the looking glass self, states that a person’s self grows out of a person's social interactions with others. The view of ourselves comes from the contemplation of personal qualities and impressions of how others perceive us. Actually, how we see ourselves does not come from who we really are, but rather from how we believe others see us” -Joachim Vogt Isaksen. The messages above have shaped me, but it is my peers that have made this message, which then shapes my identity. I put myself into to specific categories. I start to hide myself, I hide my embarrassing personality traits, or I try to suck in my gut. All because of this message. When does it become too much when we push back and don’t follow these “norms”? If I cut our hair short, not have the same default orientation, wear clothes made for men. Or if I were to protest asking for the same privileges and to end the wage gap.
I don’t want to live in this corner anymore. No one does. This tight corner we live in, that we call life should be called oppression and socialization. It’s time to break down these walls and live in a life with no corners to hide in, but rather doors to be ourselves and have new beginnings. All of these stereotypes and issues could be solved in the simplest ways. All of these corners could be brought down. We humans love to over complicate and over exaggerate things when there is no reason to. All we would have to do is stop pushing all of these stereotypes in the faces of women; it’s not only for women, it’s also for men with the Man Box, it’s also with children, and other people with different races and cultures. If we would let people be themselves and let them do things equally. To accept being different as a human. Instead of trying to make people in our society mix in qualities of who they are and who they should be. Then we would live in a perfect world, but unfortunately we don’t. The only way we can change the world is by changing our ways. Is it possible for us to change our ways, to be accepting and no longer see people in a negative way that are different from us? I believe it is, it’s very possible.
My Mask
Mask Paragraph
For this mask I wanted to make it clear that not all parts of our emotions and personalities fit together with what the media is telling us to be; and if they don’t fit with any other piece I throw them out. So I try to form my identity with the pieces, although the puzzle may never finish, it should expand over the years. Weather it be losing parts of who I am, and who I want to be. The puzzle pieces are meant to resemble personality traits, the looking glass self, and what I care about. The puzzle pieces are mixed with colors, the cool colored ones are meant to to show the proportions between positive and negative effects. The words are the three categories I listed before. In the top left corner and puzzle pieces that fit together it fades into pieces that don’t match or fit together which are in the bottom right corner.
For this mask I wanted to make it clear that not all parts of our emotions and personalities fit together with what the media is telling us to be; and if they don’t fit with any other piece I throw them out. So I try to form my identity with the pieces, although the puzzle may never finish, it should expand over the years. Weather it be losing parts of who I am, and who I want to be. The puzzle pieces are meant to resemble personality traits, the looking glass self, and what I care about. The puzzle pieces are mixed with colors, the cool colored ones are meant to to show the proportions between positive and negative effects. The words are the three categories I listed before. In the top left corner and puzzle pieces that fit together it fades into pieces that don’t match or fit together which are in the bottom right corner.